This is a continuation of Part 1 while the other three from the 5 promised are thus:
1. How often do things other than have sex.
If you are in Lust: You spend most of your time in bed. You have a super intoxicating desire to have sex all the time, but not necessarily to connect in other ways. Chances are you don’t engage in much pillow talk and you might not even cuddle.
If you are in Love: You have sex, but that’s not all you do. You want to connect with each other in other ways, like trying out new hobbies and activities together. You might not even have sex for a few days or weeks and you do not freak out about it because you know life happens and your relationship is not all about sex anyway.
2. How deep your conversations go.
If you are in Lust: You love living the fantasy. This might mean spending time in hotel rooms and engaging in sexting and superficial chatting, but you do not want to discuss real feelings or any plans for the future. If you are in Love: You talk for hours about anything and everything, including deep feelings. You care and respect how your partner feels as well as their perspective on the world. You both feel motivated to support one another and be a better person for each other.
3. How much you challenge each other.
If you are in Lust: You are so infatuated with this person that you ignore things that actually bug you, including red flags. You do not like how they handle money or how they speak to servers at dinner, but you ignore it because you do not want to rock the boat. You just want to keep things nice. If you are in Love: If you do not like something your partner said or did, you call them out, lovingly. You know a solid relationship requires honest and open communication.
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